trap1
trap/
noun
- 1.a device or enclosure designed to catch and retain animals, typically by allowing entry but not exit or by catching hold of a part of the body.
- 2.a situation in which people lie in wait to make a surprise attack.
our business. I am dragging my family and business down by making everyone else carry me.
I am crawling out of a trap. Pulling myself out and up. It is a common trap. One I foolishly thought I would never fall into. Pride. Stupidity. Fear. These three things are but a few of the lures of this trap. A trap of the mind. Many if not all mental illnesses have this trap. The, "I'm doing well. I don't need help." trap.
I have depression. This is not new. It is easier managed, in my case, with medication. I have been on medication for almost 2 years. But, honestly, in the last six months, I have not been as dedicated to taking my meds as much as I need to be. Missing a day here, two to three days here. Thinking that I will be okay with the randomness of my consumption. "I am fine" "I don't think I need them as much anymore." Golly, I am stupid.
Slowly. Everso slowly, my temper flares. I talk down to myself more. It becomes harder to get out of bed. I am not doing as much as is needed of me for my family and business. Intimacy is a burden. I throw more responsibilities off of myself and onto my husband. Food is a comfortable poison. Until one day, it is not a slow decline but a massive drop. That moment when you look into the mirror and hate yourself for what you have allowed to happen. Instead of creating an urge to change, you look on with disgust and crawl further into the trap, into the dark.
It took talking with my husband, going over just how far down I have gone. All the while telling myself that I was doing better and was fine, the complete opposite was/is true. I am not doing better and I am not fine. I am closing myself off again. I do not engage with my friends the way I previously did. I am a mountain of excuses. I have become unable to handle stress because I do not allow myself to cope. I am too lazy and sad to try to find a way to relieve my stress. Too fearful of looking silly or spending money. Telling myself over and over that I do not have the time. Refusing to make time for myself. Refusing to put an effort in anywhere. No. That is not completely true.
I put effort into pretending. Attempting to fool the world and myself. A pretty lie rather than an ugly truth.
I don't like talking to friends about when I feel crappy, sad, or anything negative. I figure they have their own issues and I don't want to burden them with mine. I don't want to drag other people into the dark with me.
I am not fine. I am stressed beyond measure. I am scared that I am failing my children and am not a good enough teacher for them. I am sad that I am not doing as much as I need to do or can do for my husband and our business. I am dragging my family and business down by making everyone else carry me.
I am not fine. But I am working on it.